Online Dating Guide: 9 Secrets on How To Really Get a Date
Ok, here I am, back with a new set of advice to help you and your love life get a little bit better. First of all I would like to apologize for the long break but now that I’m back let’s start. Our subject for now is online dating. Before we start talking about how to date online the best way that you can, let me just point out two things that have been usually misunderstood about dating over the internet.
You aren’t desperate
First of all: DATING ONLINE IS NOT A SIGN OF DESPERATION it’s just a clear sign of the evolution of communication between people and also it’s quite normal to date online since everyone of us tends to have less and less time. The only people who consider dating online an unnatural thing are the ones who are not capable of adapting to recent times. Take you grandparents for example: do you think that they would have thought that text-messageing is normal when they were young? The truth is that everything around us evolves and so should we, and one step is to understand that online dating is a very natural thing to this generation.
You aren’t emotionally scared
Second: ONLINE DATING SITES ARE NOT FOR EMOTIONALLY SCARED PEOPLE but for a normal person just as you. Being on an online dating site does not mean that you have an emotional problem but that you just want to expand your emotional horizon. Maybe you’re tired of the same girls/guys you meet in the same clubs or the same girls/guys you see when going to school or work every day. Online dating helps you meet people you might not normally meet or ask out.
So now that we have established that online dating is a very natural thing let’s move on to the advice about doing it the right way:
Online Dating Secret #1: Don’t exagerate
Any kind of exageration is probably going to backfire so be careful when you make your description: don’t write you drive a Ferrari if you don’t (Need For Speed doesn’t count). Don’t say you are filthy rich and that you own a small island. This is not going to help you at all because most people are able to spot exagerations and also because when you say things that turn out not to be true, people tend (always) to be disappointed in you leading to zero dates.
Online Dating Secret #2: Don’t be too modest
Always stick to the truth: so if you’re the one who invented a method of preventing global warming claim it if it comes up in conversation. There is no logical reason not to do so. If you are responsible for something impressive just admit it as it will surely impress and this will win you points with the person you are communicating with. But be sure not to brag about it: talk about your achievements only if they come up in conversation.
Online Dating Secret #3: Read the description
Read the description of the person you are about to talk to because even though a few people write “bla bla bla” or pointless stuff, most people tend to write something personal in that description so by reading a few lines you will have a conversation subject and also know an extra thing about the person you are about to talk to.
Online Dating Secret #4: Don’t use macho talk
Don’t use macho openers! Maybe you think “Hey sexy, how about we hook up?” is a cool conversation starter but reality shows that this kind of opener is actually an interest killer and most of the time results in nothing.
Online Dating Secret #5: Write the way you talk
Write as you would normally talk to the person you are messageing and you’ll see that he/she will consider you an open and normal person that hasn’t and hidden interest and just wants a pleasurable talk. Ask a question about the description like: “It says in your description that you like skiing. What ski resort would you recommend me?” The point is to show that you have read the description and leave room for a response. Many times a simple “hi” might do the job. It’s not an exact science but showing that you took an interest in the description is probably going to get you a bonus point.
Online Dating Secret #6: Use more than one word
There’s no greater conversation killer than a short answer like: “yes” or “no”. Think about talking to someone who would answer to a question with a short answer? Would you like to talk to that person? Me neither.
Online Dating Secret #7: Keep it going
Keep the conversation going. You should try to make it go as smoothly as possible and by talking (online) you should try to find out as many things about the person you are talking to but in a natural friendly way: ask a question and when you get the answer build upon that or go on for another question. Go any way you wish as long as you don’t let the conversation fade: think of it as a flower you have to nurture to give enough sun and water it each day. Fuel the conversation every way you can.
Onlie Dating Secret #8: Be funny
This is a must because it’s statistically proven that funny people have the highest success ratio because it’s easy to break the ice with them and let’s be honest here: who doesn’t like to be around funny people?
Online Dating Secret #9: Go for a date
There’s nothing to lose in going out with a person you think you like. You have only to gain from this experience, trust me. You might wonder when it’s the right moment to ask the other one out: well, when you know a few things about each other and you are having fun talking to each other that’s certainly the right moment.
Now I’m going to give you a few tips about choosing your profile photo:
Profile photo Tip #1: No car
Don’t take a picture next to your car because the other person should be interested in who you are not what brand of vehicle you drive or how much money you have.
Profile photo Tip #2: No shirt off
Don’t take pictures with your shirt off because nobody wants to meet a person obsessed with his or her own body. That’s common sense.
Profile photo Tip # 3: Look Best
Try too look best in your profile photo. This is the last and most important thing so when taking the picture, wear some nice clothes, get a haircut and style your hear a bit. Trust me, this won’t hurt a bit but it will increase your chances.
I wish you lots of luck with your online dating. And if you would like to, let me know how it went.
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